Life Skills

When was the last time?

Actually, when was the last time that you made yourself a priority in terms of following your heartfelt dreams? I mean, really digging in deep and allowing those long forgotten dreams to come to the surface?

Take the Time to Dream

We are good at not prioritising the best for ourselves when it comes to planning & working towards the future. All too often we allow the plans & dreams of others to dictate how our life plays out before us.

But why do we allow this to happen? There may be many reasons including family of origin traits, previous disappointments, pressure from love ones or simply being told at a very young age that certain things are not possible for people like us.

I don’t know what it is for you, however, I do know what the answer is! Simply put, you need to do 3 things in order to make the changes you ‘believe’ you desire in life.

  1. Take the time to dream again, I mean, really dream.
  2. Create a plan to follow, beginning right away and
  3. Execute that plan every single day

OK, this list sounds simple enough and yet, I am willing to wager not 3% of you reading this post understand where to start or what action to take. And to be honest, that is understandable for some of the reasons I mentioned earlier.

So how do we make a change that sticks, make a step in the right direction? This is where the services of a qualified coach come into play. A coach quite simply can take you from where you are today to where you desire to be tomorrow.

Step into your Future!

If this is you, if you are sick & tired of being sick & tired, then do yourself a favour and reach out to me for a FREE discovery session.

During this session, we will talk about your dreams & goals and see whether in fact we are a good fit together. Then and only then you can decide to take the next step towards the life you have literally only dreamed of to this point.

Make that move today and reach out for a free discovery call.

Your future self is waiting for you to take that next right step 🙂


Welcome to Flight #2021. ✈️

We are prepared to take off into the New Year! Please make sure your Attitude and Blessings are secured and locked in an upright position. All self destructive devices should be turned off at this time. Should we lose Altitude under pressure, during the flight, reach up and pull down a Prayer. 🙏 Prayers will automatically be activated by Faith. Once your Faith is activated you can assist other passengers. There will be NO BAGGAGE allowed on this flight. The Captain has cleared us for take off…Destination GREATNESS! ❤️ Have a Healthy, Safe, and Blessed 2021!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! May it be full of great blessings for all of you!! 🍀🥂🍾👍 ❤️


Thoughts are Things

Ever wondered how you got to where you are in life today?

I mean. Have you really sat down and had a good heart to heart with yourself and delved into the larger questions of life?

Is there a God? Why am I here? Does my life truly matter and so forth.

You see, we are precisely where we are in life today because of the thoughts we think!

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he”

We become exactly what we think about all day long. So, if you have not achieved a certain level of “life” and are searching for more, then you have discovered a great truth today!

Working with me one on one or in a group setting, we can unpack in detail your underlying thoughts, question if they are serving you well and then go about making some changes.

if this sounds like you, then reach out today and let’s set up a time to discuss you a little more.

Life can and should be exciting. We just have to get you thinking correctly.

I look forward to speaking with you soon 😊

Love & Marriage

Conversation Tips for Husbands and Wives

Just been reading a terrific book by Willard F. Harley, Jr titles: His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage
At the end of the fifth chapter, he gives what I consider to be an excellent list for married couples to follow regarding having and holding intimate conversation with each other.
Have a read and let me know your thoughts & comments.

Conversation Tips for Husbands and Wives

As a caring husband, a man converses with his wife in a way that enables her to reveal her deepest feelings. Through conversation, he learns to meet many of her needs. But the conversation itself meets one of her most important marital needs. She simply wants him to talk to her.
1. Remember how it was when you were dating. You both still need to exhibit that same intense interest in each other and in what you have to say, especially about your feelings.
2. A woman has a profound need to engage in conversation about her concerns and interests with someone who-in her view-cares deeply about her.
3. Men, if your job keeps you away from home overnight or for days on end, think about changing jobs. If you cannot, find ways to restore intimacy of your marriage each time you return from an absence so that your wife can begin to feel comfortable with you again. (If the wife does most of the travelling, the same principle applies.)
4. Get into the habit of spending fifteen hours each week alone with your spouse giving each other undivided attention. Spend much of this time in intimate conversation.
5. Remember, most women fall in love with men who set aside time to share conversation and affection with them. They stay in love with men who continue to meet those needs.
6. Financial considerations should not prevent you from meeting your wife’s need for intimate conversation. If your job doesn’t give you enough time to be alone to talk, it is ruining your marriage. Your job should serve your marriage, not vice versa.
7. Never make demands on each other.
8. Never be disrespectful to each other. Respect your spouse’s feelings and opinions, especially when yours are different.
9. Never say anything to each other when you are angry.
10. Never remind each other of past mistakes or dwell on present mistakes.
11. Use your conversation to inform, investigate, and understand each other.
12. Develop interest in each other’s favourite topics of conversation.
13. Learn to balance your conversation. Avoid interrupting each other and try to give each other the same amount of time to talk.
14. Give each other your undivided attention during conversation.

His Needs, Her Needs Building an Affair-Proof Marriage; William F. Harley, Jr.

Health & Wellness Uncategorized

Did you know that healthy people also go to counselling?

Did you know that healthy people also go to counselling?
I know right, it was a surprise to me also until a few years ago. My understanding was that only people who were desparate or really messed up went to counselling.

You could say that there is some kind of stigma attached (wrongly) to people who see the need to attend counselling. I am here to tell you that the truth is something quite different.

You are actually the expert in your own life, that’s right, you and no one else. Sure, we can get a little blind-sided at times and things that are obvious to others may not register in our minds. However, that doesn’t take away from the fact that you are the CEO and ultimate decision maker in


My first experience of counselling was when I sought out a local counsellor for some advice. That advice was in fact around whether they thought I would be suited to the profession. So my idea was that I would go along to the session, tell the person what I need and they would tell me precisely what I needed to do. Oh, how misguided I was!

The very first thing they said after welcoming me to the counselling room was that they weren’t there to tell me what to do, but rather, to come along side and help me figure things out for myself. What a huge disappointment I felt deep in my spirit. After all, if they couldn’t tell me, how was I to work this out?

Enter counselling 101, active listening and an empathetic listener as my guide. By the end of the hour long session, I had managed to talk out what I was thinking, sought some guidance and had a good idea of my next right step, wow! (disclaimer: you will most likely need more than just one session for most things)

I felt energised, reaffirmed and positive that counselling (counsellor) had a part in my life and the very next year, I began my studies in counselling. But that is a subject perhaps for another post or 3 🙂

Let me finish by saying that if you are stuck or struggling or simply looking for some help with goals or direction in life, whatever the need, having a chat with a qualified counsellor is most likely going to be of significant benefit to you.

If you need a recommendation, feel free to contact me and I will be only too happy to refer you to someone suitable in your area.

Life Skills

Strange Practices of People Who Never Succeed

Over the years, I’ve observed a lot of people who have not achieved what they want in life. These people often have a lot in common. I thought it might benefit YOU to have a list of things NOT to do. So, following is what seems to be a mental “To Do” list for non-achievers:


1. Don’t listen to anyone who has had actual success.

2. Take advice from everybody you know who has never achieved a dream.

3. Plan, plan, plan, and plan some more. Get everything 100% right. Then check it a few more times before you actually DO something.

4. Blame others for your failure to achieve what you want.

5. Take time every day to remind yourself what a loser you are.

6. Repeat the same mistakes over and over.

7. Keep going in the same direction that has never gotten you where you want to go.

8. Don’t do anything to replace those limiting, negative thoughts you’ve always had.

9. Keep spending time around those people who assure you you’ll never be successful.

10. Insist that you are right, no matter what the outcome of any action, because being wrong is worse than failure.

Is there anything on this list that YOU ever do?

If so, how can you change it?

To Your Success,

Peter Grimes

Life Skills

See The Big Picture!

We all get in a position at times in our lives where it’s hard to see the forest for the trees. That’s why it’s an important daily habit to step back and look at the big picture.

Self-improvement is continual, gradual, daily change. The problem is, it takes daily focus – which most people tend to lose.

When there’s an unexpected crisis, THEN it’s easy to focus. You handle the danger on the spot. But when a bad situation develops little by little, day after day, we’re often not really aware of the problem until it’s too late.

If that situation sounds familiar to you, then it’s REALLY important that you see the big picture. Life demands your focus. If you aren’t in the daily habit of focusing, then life will send some pain your way to get your attention.


It’s a lot less stressful to make life changes on your own schedule, avoiding that crisis. When you look at the big picture and see changes you’d like to make, you can start making them gradually, which is much more pleasant than having life force those changes on you.

Sometimes, even gradual change can be difficult because of the way others see you. If that is the case, then THAT is a good place to start. Think through a plan that will put you in a position where other peoples’ preconceived notions don’t matter to you – so that all that really matters is what YOU think. Then work that plan on a daily basis. Make it a habit, and make it reality.

Self-improvement is something we all need to do, every day. Avoiding it doesn’t work. Instead, step back. Look at the big picture. Which life problem area stands out? Is it something you really want to change? OK. Start. Make a plan and work your plan every day. EVERY day!

Before you know it, you will be a different person. You’ll be especially proud of the changes you made in yourself. And this will make you a happier person.

To Your Success,

Peter Grimes

Home Based Business

Giving Changes EVERYTHING!

Social Entrepreneurship is the new business model being adopted by world leaders as not only an incredible way to make money but a way to create social change at the same time.

More and more people are looking for a way to become their own boss, increase their income and create freedom, while doing something of purpose at the same time. In the past, doing something that was good for a community or had a specific social need, was left to charities and governments who were set up to handle those issues.

social entrepreeurs

However, business leaders have worked out a way to combine the “For Profit Business Model” with the “Not For Profit Passion for Change”.

This new way of doing business is not about companies giving a percentage of their income away, it is the company putting up their hand to say “We will take on the responsibility to fix this problem” and then them coming up with a profitable and sustainable way to handle that problem.

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Life Skills Uncategorized

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Tools of the Trade

When blogging, what tools of the trade do you use? Good question & here’s my little list of likes/tools, enjoy 🙂